How To Piss Off Adoptive Parents
NBC has an upcoming program called "America's Favorite Mom":
Teleflora presents America's Favorite Mom," an NBC prime-time television event hosted by Donny and Marie Osmond. In addition, there will be special cameo appearances by Christina Aguilera, Tony Hawk, Alicia Keys, Hulk Hogan, Naomi Judd, Amy Poehler, music by the Dey (www.thedey.com) and more throughout the broadcast. At the end of the special, the Osmonds will crown one lucky winner, "America's Favorite Mom."
I'd rather de-grout a prison camp shower stall with my tongue than watch that. But in addition to being an aesthetic abomination akin to Hallmark throwing up on a collection of Hummel figurines, its producers are also assholes about adoption.
You see, NBC's producers put adoptive mothers into the category of "non-moms": "The non-mom mom: Grandparent, stepmom, or mom to adopted children, each one raising and loving a child. A priceless gift for everybody." I suppose that makes me a non-dad as well. It's going to be a pisser finding a Father's Day card for that. Think it's just a stray poor choice of words? Check out how they describe one of the semi-finalists: "She was an adopted child who is now mom to her own daughter, plus six adopted children who started life as 'meth babies'." In other words, there's her own child, then there's the adopted children, who belong in another category, nor her own. NBC doesn't want you to confuse them.
I expect people not familiar with adoption to use adoption-ignorant or adoption-unfriendly language on occasion. But a major television network creating a show devoted to celebrating motherhood ought to have more of a clue. Adoption boards are in a fury over this one, and many people are contacting NBC and its sponsors. The mothers who they've insulted are part of the target audience for the show and the sponsors. Boo. Hiss. Dumbasses.
If you'd like to discuss this or other issues about adoption, don't forget our new adoption forum.
Edit: NBC has now changed it to "The Adopting Mom" — though it still hasn't changed the obnoxious own child/adopted child language. Here's how it used to look:
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